Posted by Tao23
So, General Organa — Carrie Fisher — is dead. At sixty. She left behind a hell of a body of work and a trail of lives and souls touched through the characters she portrayed, the stories she worked on, and in person eye to eye.
She’s hardly the only one to die relatively young. It happens all the time. But when someone whose work is widely known goes youngish, you notice.
And it set me to thinking, because that’s what I do. I don’t just write about the near future. I live in it, too, through imagination and worry.
I think, I’m forty-six. Carrie Fisher died at sixty.
My dad died at fifty.
I’m going to croak in four years or maybe fourteen (or fifteen minutes or fifty years, but never mind that). And I wonder, in that self-doubting way I have in my own head, if that means that if I’m lucky I’ll live to see a book of mine sell a whole thousand copies.
If. If I’m lucky, the little voice says. It’s a pessimist. My future vision, no matter howmuch science fiction I read and write, specializes in horror when I’m the only audience.
And it is honed and practiced by my earlier life. The Wasted Years, I sometimes think of them as, despite their worth now in experience and tenacity and other mostly bitter lessons learned at the feet of pain.
People like Carrie — scratch that. I’m talking about her. Carrie worked and built her career through substance abuse and mental illness and her own internal little voices, whatever fear and doubt she had and she alone truly knew.
I didn’t build a damn thing, and that lack hurts me. Like, physically when I think about it seriously. For this reason and that circumstance and whoknowswhat, some of which I’m aware of, it took me thirty years or so from age five to my mid/late thirties to begin to suspect that I might have value as a human and as a creative person. While Carrie worked I hid and devoted myself, monklike, to substance abuse and cowardice and surrender to all the things I didn’t think I could face alone.
Maybe that’s why, in this latest cycle of Star Wars movies, I feel contempt for Luke Skywalker.
And let me be clear: the character, not the actor. While I admire both Carrie Fisher and Leia Organa, I’m not sure I can admire Luke even if Mark Hamill is, I hear, a great guy.
I’m not closing the door on Luke. For all my pessimism, it is born of constantly disillusioned optimism and idealism. I cannot help hoping, even as I cannot help pessimism-ing. They’re in my blood.
But, seriously, fuck Luke Skywalker.
General Organa, from her Princess Leia days, was out fighting the good fight, facing the cold hard world with teeth bared and steel in her spine, standing in the face of disadvantage and danger and fear and worry and her own personal feelings and pains. Like the woman who portrayed her.
And you, Skywalker, you self-involved coward, ran away to hide.
It is easy for me to hate his character because I see a part of me portrayed in him that I despise and regret.
“But live your life without regrets!” you crow.
Oh, stuff it. That’s as dumb as that stupid “No Fear” slogan that was so big a few years back. You can’t learn a damn thing if you pretend the lessons and clues to them don’t exist.
And, to pick up the earlier thread again, I wonder how much time I have. Four years? Fourteen? Fifty?
I wonder where I’d be now if I hadn’t spent so many years being a dedicated half-hermit drunk paralyzed by the fear, the near-certainty, that I had nothing to offer the world, nothing to offer even myself.
And I know it doesn’t matter.
The past is gone, the future is unrevealed, and what matters is what I do now.
Now is all I have. And all you have. And all Carrie and General Organa and Princess Leia had.
Some days it’s hard. Living with one foot in the maybe-future, as I must doing what I do, makes me a worrier.
I worry I already blew my chance. That maybe only an S.A. Barton who kept writing in high school and through his twenties and thirties had a chance to make a living and a name writing. That maybe the S.A. Barton I am, the one who blew those years in self-dissipation, cannot no matter how hard he tries. (Oh, gawd. I’m speaking in third person. Shoot me.)
But maybe that me would have been too shallow to be worth much without all these crappy experiences I have survived. And the better experiences that eventually grew from them.
Who knows? Nobody.
Playing the what-if game outside of fiction leads to madness.
I still worry, wonder, regret, rage, fear. And wonder if I’ll have time to make my voice heard widely, to grow into a respected creative voice the way Carrie Fisher did. To make that kind of impact, one that will last many, many years after her untimely departure. I don’t know. It took her a lifetime, didn’t it?
Maybe I can. Maybe I won’t.
But when the worry and regret perch ravenlike in the dark corners behind me, I remind myself that it doesn’t matter.
I have no time for cowards anymore, whether they are Luke Skywalker or the Ghost of S.A. Barton Past. But I do, in that undying spark of stubborn optimism that hides under my pessimism, believe there’s a chance to be better today, and every today until the todays stop coming, and to find success.
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Posted by Tao23
Sometimes I bog down on my blogging or my fiction writing through a desire to be profound. Lots of people want to be profound. We want people to pay attention to us, we want to be important, we want to be recognized. More to the point, I want to be important and paid attention to. Especially paid; I am attempting to earn some money through my writing and I find the notion of being paid to write attractive.
But I was talking about getting over being profound. I have a bit of perfectionist in me, so I want everything I say or write to be profound. In fact, I have more than a bit of that perfectionist in me. But the fact of the matter is, nobody is profound all of the time. Wanting to be profound, to be perfect, holds a lot of people back from doing what they dream about doing, from chasing their dreams. Because failing is scary, and the possibility of being laughed at is really scary.
Take a minute and look at some people whose work you respect, who you think caught at least a little bit of their own dreams, who have had some success. Take a look at Bob Dylan, Robert Frost, Isaac Asimov, Ansel Adams, Andrew Wyeth, anyone else who took a flying leap at some corner of the world of the arts and did good.
Was everything they did profound? No. Some of it was good, some was amazing and profound, some of it was not so good. In fact, some of it sucked. They were successful in large part because they kept doing what they did even when someone said it sucked.
That’s a lesson so obvious that most of us have ‘learned’ it hundreds of times over. We’ve heard it in one form or another so often that it has ceased to be meaningful signal and has become noise.
It’s not noise. Stop hearing it and listen to it.